Love is a natural and forceful enigma that could not be discerned, commanded, demanded, or even controlled by our whims and caprices. This is why people could do things that are so unorthodox and indescribable in the name of love, at least it appears so to onlookers that are not wearing that particular crown of love at the instance.
Love is a choice and as well as a feeling; it is a choice in the sense that we can accept love or reject it. We can choose to beckon love, but we have no control over when, where and how love will present itself. This is the reason why we give love a chance to grow, and it might or might not manifest. This is also why some people find it absolutely difficult to express love. That is the same reason why we have no control of who we fall in love with.
The depth of our hearts and our natural inclination to be passionate about life grants our intrinsic conducive atmospheric condition that is capable of harboring love in our hearts; that is the reason why some people are compassionate and kind hearted, while some are not. This is also the reason why some people are incapable of standing in love. Just as water and oil do not mix, so is the case with love and undesirable atmosphere.
Love comes in different forms; love can be expressed in a gratitude form; this is seen when we appreciate other people’s gestures. Love can also be expressed in a compassionate way; this is when we feel or show concerns for someone’s struggles such as sickness, poverty, hurt or even death. Love can also be expressed in an empathetic way; this is when we are able to meet people where they are with their challenges, emotions, or experiences, and appreciate their struggles. Love can also come in a romantic form; this is probably the common and most sort after love. This type of love is so vast that I could not possibly delve into it in this piece. Be that as it may, no matter how love is expressed, the common fact is that all love is inherently free. If it is not free, it is not love. No matter how hard we try, we cannot make or force someone to love us, and in the same vein, we cannot stop the force of love. I must also add that most times we tend to misconstrue lust and fantasy as love. Lust and fantasy have no fundamental bearing, whereas love has the capability to endure and persevere. For instance, our biblical Jesus Christ persevered and endured some unprovoked brutal attacks because of His unconditional love for mankind.
Love is the vessel that harbors the key principles of human relations. In other words, love breeds patience, forgiveness, tolerance, unity, compromise, compassion, passion, empathy, even sympathy. These elements are the synergy that holds us tight as a people. When there is love, we tend to agree to disagree; we tend to get along, and we tend to be accommodating. When there is love, there is equally the inclination to be our brother’s keepers. Love has the ability to contain arrogance, jealousy, envy, selfishness, hatred, anger, and backbiting.
Often times, we expect people to reason or behave certain way in order to meet our acceptable standard; thus, we set very high expectations for them, and these high expectations became the requisite for their acceptability, and for us to be able to induct them into the ambit of our love. Unfortunately, or rather fortunately, love holds no expectation because of its unconditional and non judgmental tendencies.
Love is very synonymous with water and oxygen as far as human existence and survival are concern. Any soul that lacks love is as dead as a body without water and oxygen. Therefore, it is very critical for each and every one of us to cultivate the habit of spreading the agape love indiscriminately as that is the only way the center of our collective wheel of life will hold. We ought to prepare our hearts, make it very conducive, and beckon love, and we shall be infected with both the evergreen romantic and agape love that oscillate our cycle of life. Peace and love profound be unto us!
Ifeanyichukwu E. Uke